soothe, saying

a mirror appears, in which all projections are appropriately redirected to the sourceyou can't have this divorce
the one you really want

Maybe--once we accept that life is painful, we may transcend the difficulty
It is simply no longer relevant

Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom
Indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom

It is largely because of pain that we grow mentally and spiritually?
       The tendency to avoid pain and conflict is the basis for all mental illness

Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering